TO DO: Once-A-Month Cooking

One of my biggest goals is to create some sort of manageable routine that our whole family can depend on. There are many of small steps that must be taken in order to reach the top of the routine staircase and once-a-month cooking is one of those steps.

I cannot even tell you how many times a month, cooking goes on the absolute back burner in this house. As the primary cook in our household, I am really bad at my job. First of all, I love the idea and concept of cooking a lot more than I actually like to cook. Cooking kind of reminds me of doing dishes – I dread getting up to go and do it, but once I’m there I enjoy myself well enough, and once it’s over, I never want to do it again. Generally, my place is not in the kitchen!

I also wouldn’t say that I’m a skilled chef. I tend to make a lot of the same meals and any real chef will tell you I’m doing it wrong every step of the way. To this day, every single time I make a roast, anyone who wanders past my oven will gape and moan about the atrocities being committed. My Mom, to this day, every time I cook that roast will comment that she can’t believe that it’s as good as it is being that I just killed an already dead cut of beef… And my lack of skill doesn’t necessarily reflect on the taste or quality of my meals, since I’ve never had a single person (not even my sometimes picky kids) say that my food wasn’t good.

I tend towards massive limitations on the type of foods I’m willing to eat as well, which make the whole once-a-month cooking idea that much more daunting for me. In our house, I am definitely the pickiest eater. I’m not a huge fan of any fruits and the only vegetable I eat regularly is corn. I seem to really enjoy foods that come in cardboard boxes – although I think that’s more learned than it is actual enjoyment. But things like onions, mushrooms, the things you normally add for additional flavoring in freezer cooking, really turn my taste buds off. Just writing them makes me cringe a little…

However, all those negatives and excuses now being laid out, I cannot stop obsessing over the idea of being able to easily pull out a basically prepared meal from the freezer and have dinner on the table with only a tiny bit of preparing. And most definitely a lighter clean-up. It just looks and sounds like a blissful experience. What? I just have to pop this in the oven for dinner tonight? Like a pizza? It’s perfect!!

I’ve read many things about this fantasy land known as freezer cooking. They all say the same things, but I often wonder, can I really do this? Is this really me? It’s something I would like to try and at least be capable of providing a definitive answer to that last question.

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TO WRITE: Something Non-Erotic and Fictional

I do write non-erotic fiction, I’m almost absolutely sure of it! For many years now my main focus has been erotic fiction and erotic non-fiction and any other writing is in the form of articles or resource pieces.

Prior to erotica, I stuck mostly to poetry – that I would then add to music and make a song out of. It’s been a really long time since I last wrote a song and I’m pretty sure my last masterpiece was an on-the-spot piece consisting of two chords and words that rhymed with “tree”, thus making this song “The Tree”. Could I tell you anything about the song now? Nope!

What I’d really like to experiment with is sci-fi/fantasy writing, but I’ve often found that I struggle intensly with it. Especially being that I’m not a huge fan of reading it and so far the only fantasy/sci-fi type books that I’ve gotten into (thanks to The Boyfriend) is R.A. Salvatore’s Legend of Drizzt series (seriously love this character!).

I’d also really like to try my hand at some literary humor. I tend to not even try to be funny in writing. Sarcastic sometimes or maybe darkly witty, but rarely ever outright funny. The smiles on people’s faces during reading any of my pieces would probably be more devious than one of sincere and genuine humor.

I’m kind of not sure where to start with this one. If it doesn’t involve sex or intimacy, I’m kind of lost on what to do with characters and plots. I don’t get ideas in my head about non-erotic things or non-educational things very often, so it’s kind of like fishing in the dark and seeing what I come out with.

The Boyfriend has been working on two stories, very sporadically, that I would eventually like to contribute to. I feel like I could tell the story so much more differently than him, but inspired by his original storyline, that it could be a very interesting thing to do. However, he would totally have to finish one of them for me to do that with 😉

TO HAVE: A G-Spot Orgasm

Surely, this is on almost every woman’s fucket list. We’ve all heard these magical tales of the awesomeness that comes from a g-spot orgasm and we’ve all seen the videos of the women squirting endlessly into the camera, and we all want to experience this absolutely intense looking/sounding orgasm.

This hasn’t always been an interest of mine. For many years I was actually quite disgusted by the concept of it. I remember watching a porn with my first boyfriend for the first time and a girl squirted in the video and I was literally horrified. I covered my 14-year-old eyes and squirmed in discomfort. I just did not like what I had seen!!

I didn’t start becoming interested in having a g-spot orgasm for myself until I was in my mid-20’s. I had briefly become curious about tantric sex and had seen a documentary that showed a woman being brought to a squirting orgasm during a workshop on tantric sex. Unlike in the porn situation, where I was uncomfortable and a little mortified, I felt intrigued and curious and a little more than fascinated and thus began my newfound obsession with the idea of one day finding my g-spot.

However, it’s always lived in idea mode and that is something that I would like to change…

Lots of things have stood in the way to me discovering my g-spot. First and foremost is the fact that I don’t want to find it alone. I know this sounds picky and I would probably feel completely different if I was single, but I feel like finding my g-spot should be something we do together. Alas, The Boyfriend has zero interest in a “squirting” orgasm. As far as he’s concerned, I make enough mess already… Also, when I masturbate by myself, typically there is absolutely no penetration happening whatsoever – it’s all clitoral.

Another thing standing in the way is my pre-conceived notions of what it’s going to be like. I have so much second-hand knowledge of these orgasms in my head, that it automatically makes where I’m thinking about it too much. Maybe I’ve already had one and I just don’t realize it because of all of my pre-conceived notions about it.

One day though, I’d like to just experience it for sure, without a doubt. Squirts and all…

 

TO GET: A Sex Toy… Any Sex Toy!!!

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I didn’t get my first sex toy until I was 23, if I remember correctly. The Boyfriend and I had just begun dating and Alfie was incredibly jealous. To attempt to start a fight, he fished through the sex toy vending machine at his work until he was able to nab me a vibrator. He thought he was so awesome bringing it over. Little did he know that he was just supplying The Boyfriend…

It was better than I had expected it to be. This little one-battery cat head with a tail that acted as a clitoral stimulator (though did a terrible job at it…). It was the first time I had ever experienced vibrations that weren’t caused by a mouth and it was different to say the least.

Then, I got a box of toys that I had intended to sell. It ended up not being sold and instead was distrubuted out to family members and used. None really stood out as total “wow” implements, although some got more use than others. The Boyfriend enjoyed using the dildos and I liked the vibrators again (although found that I couldn’t use them often or it would take longer for me to orgasm – something that I get pretty fed up about when I’m on that mission).

Alas, we had to throw all the sex toys that we had had in the garbage. It was an incredibly sad day. Now, it’s been at least three years since we last used a sex toy…

Ideally, I’d like to get at least two handfuls worth of toys that we used reguarly. But since we’re on a more limited budget, I’m being more realistic and just saying that I want to get a sex toy – any sex toy – and I want it to be by my birthday!!

I think I want to look into getting a Magic Wand, although I’m incredibly iffy about this particular one. I also want a dildo sans vibration, but that’s solely because I know how much The Boyfriend absolutely loves using them. I also haven’t really looked at sex toys in over a year, and I know a few things have changed.

I just want something more than fingers and genitals to use in the bedroom (bathroom, kitchen, forest, car….)…

TO MAKE: Household Management System

Some people think that having a binder dedicated to the running of the household is a useful tool to have. I would normally agree, except that in my house, if it’s paper (or walls), it gets drawn on. And while these 4, 6, 8 and 9-year-old beautiful abstract flowers are nice to have, it makes keeping organized impossible!

So, we bought a white board thinking this would solve the problem. That white board is still sitting in my closet and we’ve lived here for three years with the goal of putting it up… In two different ways we’ve tried filing cabinets. I have a rolling drawer one, which is now completely broken and I have a little desktop one that just kinda gets shoved full of papers and then forgotten about.

This is one of those situations that really has me stuck on my goal of creating routine. To create a routine, I need to have a household management system in place. To get a household management system in place, I need some type of routine. It’s a total catch-22/vicious cirlce type of situation. Where do you start? What was first – the chicken or the egg?!?!?

In a Perfect World…

If we lived in a perfect world – well first of all, I would have a job, the kids would be homeschooled and have after-school activities to go to, there’d be a vehicle and a driver’s license, we’d live somewhere else in the world, etc. However, we’ll just use today’s world as an example of how a home management system might work or how I’d like it to work…

First, there’d be a station at the most commonly used door. I’ve seen many variations on this space, but mostly, I’d want:

  • A garbage can for junk mail
  • A mat for shoes to be placed on
  • Hooks for coats and backpacks
  • A table with a bowl for keys and change
  • A mirror
  • A place to put important mail and school stuff that has to be looked at every single day and organized!!

Then, we’d need to figure out some way to keep track of all the things we have to keep track of. Like when certain “days” are at school, when bills are due, when birthdays are and when we should start planning for them… I’ve attempted a variety of different mediums for date tracking (online calendars, wall/fridge calendars, apps, etc.) and none have ever stuck.

Really, I just need to pick a method and then become consistent with it. Do you notice the common theme here? Consistency – I need to be become more consistent in EVERYTHING!!!

I hope to spend the next month really trying to figure out how to make a routine and home management system that will work for us, so that when school starts (especially being that all 4 will be in school and then I’ll be able to think about going back to work soon), we have something in place that will help us keep track of everything. Because I do not need another repeat of the disaster that was last year or the years prior…

Does anyone out there feel like they have an organized life, a consistent routine? Do you think it’s easy to maintain or do you sometimes struggle too?